I love you straight from my brain
To know my husband is to love him. And after a year of intense trauma therapy, I know him so much more, and so I love him so much more. And not love as in sex, or love as in losing myself in him, but love as in "I want you to thrive!" The best kind of love. His severe ADHD diagnosis was the most revealing. What I thought was male distraction, Dutch coldness, and workaholism was neurodivergence! They are still those things, but now I know! Therapy is a transformative gift, and I recommend it for every married couple out there. Whether everything is copacetic or not, learn about each other and how your brains work. Loving your brain is loving yourself. Loving yourself means you can love others fully. Our marriage is filled with contradictions and obstacles. Coming from different worlds, the path was destined to be difficult, but what is magical is our persistence, our grit, our fierce determination to win at all costs. Our definition of "win" changes, as it should. No...